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The vast majority of college-age guys and twenty-something men I meet are engaged and smart about women’s issues – men, too, are horrified by sexual violence. Men don’t think rape is OK, or funny, or something to be taken lightly. Many men have witnessed (or experienced) domestic or sexual violence firsthand; these are issues that have touched – and hurt – their lives as well.

So please understand that when I say this, I say it with deep respect and empathy for your real-life experience:

Men, you need to do more.

I wrote about how men can help stop rape at the Guardian US.

Bravo for Wendy Davis, but our abortions are none of your business

When her memoir hits stores in the middle of her campaign for Texas governor on Tuesday, readers will be privy to extremely personal moments in the public life of Wendy Davis. Early excerpts of the book revealed over the weekend show that Davis had two abortions - one that terminated a dangerous ectopic pregnancy and another that ended a second-trimester pregnancy after a doctor found severe fetal abnormalities.

In a political climate so antagonistic to women and reproductive rights, this kind of disclosure is undoubtedly brave. But in a world where there is no privacy for women and their bodies, it’s shameful that we have to lay bare our reproductive lives just so others can – maybe, if we’re lucky – view us as full people.

Because, really, women’s abortions are none of your business – not even those of a public figure, not even one who became an international figure because of abortion rights. We shouldn’t have to explain ourselves or justify our life decisions: our abortions are ours alone.

Read the rest at the Guardian US.